January 7, 2010
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The science behind my decision to stay home with my kids
Five years ago, right before I gave birth to my daughter, I had the full intention of going back to work after my 12 weeks of maternity leave.
Then she was born, and I couldn’t go to the bathroom in the hospital without wheeling her crib thingy into the bathroom with me. Those first twelve weeks passed in a blur or sleeplessness, total fear, depression, anxiety, and lots of bodily fluids flying around. Layered beneath, and perhaps fueling all these feelings, was this gargantuan love that I felt for this teeny weeny, helpless baby. I couldn’t even really go there and try to measure the love. It was too scary. And when I thought about going back to work, I couldn’t really go there either. It gave me such a sick feeling in my stomach, made the back of my neck sweat. It was like a primal response. There was NO WAY I could leave this baby in someone else’s care. Life at home was weird and scary and hard, but I would choose that any day over the pain of leaving her.
But what about my ideals? I went to college! I had a career! I finally had a job I really liked. I wasn’t going to give all that up for a mere baby. How boring. How 1957.
Right before the 12 week mark and my pending return to work, we flew to Florida to visit my husband’s parents. On the way home, the panic started to really set in about returning to work. If you’ve ever walked through an airport with a newborn, you know how every woman you pass has to stop and oogle at the baby.
Here’s my chance I thought – I’ll take a survey of all these moms.
“So, I’m trying to decide – did you go back to work or stay home with your kids?”
The response was amazing. Every woman I asked was so willing to talk to me about it. All the women who had returned to work said things like,
“It’s really hard, but you can do it.”
“It stinks, but you’ll make it through.”
“You’ll feel guilty, but eventually it will get better. It’s fine.”
The women who had chosen to stay home said things like,
“It was the best decision I ever made.”
“I don’t regret it.”
“They were the best years of my life.”
Everyone is different and has different needs, but for me, this little science experiment in the airport sealed my decision (I think I had already made up my mind anyway). I quit my job the next day . It was the best decision I ever made. I don’t regret it.
What did you go through in deciding to go back to work or not?
Comments (69)
I love this post!
I made no decision, I always wanted to be a fulltime mom. I love hearing how other women come to that conclusion. It’s a tough job, but far greater than anything I could imagine! I love being 1957!
Look forward to reading other posts!
as a male, I can’t answer this!
or can i….hmm!
I’m only 20, but I decided a couple years back that I wanted to be a stay at home mom, well work from home. My parents were NEVER there for me growing up so I want to make sure that I’m there for my children.
Heartwarming
I have yet to have a child, but whenever I do, I definitely want to stay home with them. I don’t think there is any job that could pay me enough to miss the beginning moments of my child.
My mom worked throughout my childhood since she had to work during money.I did’nt see her much,but when I did see her she was the best mom ever.I’ve always believed probably because I’m still a teen that being a stay home mom you give up your power as a women to your husband.Mostly I would’nt think about it since it would be a power stuggle for me.
well… to be fair, i don’t think anyone would say to a stranger that leaving her/his baby was the best decision s/he ever made. those women were torn because they obviously love their children, but for them, going back was the right choice.
things may change in the future, but at this point in my life, i wouldn’t give up my career plans for anything or anyone. that comes off selfish, but the career is that for which i work and that of which i am proud.
i enjoyed this post, though.
wow, cool…
you seem like most women in my family…
Asking a few people in the airport isn’t science. I’m disappointed in this whole post cause there is no science in it at all.
i could never just sit around at home. i need to be in school or going to work or heavily volunteering, being productive in some way besides playing with a baby. either way, i won’t have the option to stay at home, not enough money for that.
For me the decision was easy. The following through was not always easy. It involved budgeting, learning how to make dishes we liked out of leftovers, babysitting for extra money (and playmates for the kids), sometimes having to take food out of the shopping cart because I didn’t have enough money (so embarrassing), making do with one car, sewing or making things because there wasn’t enough money to buy them, shopping at Goodwill before it was cool, ignoring comments from others about my “not working.” It was worth it all though, and I would do it all over again.
I don’t plan on having kids anytime soon but whenever I do (if it’s financially possible) I already know I would want to stay home with them. I wouldn’t want to miss anything new when they’re just starting to grow, and I want to be the one taking care of my kids.
I know having a job or career is very important, but nothing comes before family in my opinion.
Good for you that you decided to stay home.
I’ve thought about this questions so many times and here is what i’ve concluded.
Yes, staying home with the kids is nice because you wont be feeling guilty or stressed when you are at work. You dont have to work and have to take care of kids…your concentration IS the kids.
On the other hand, giving away yoru job is like pulling yourself out of the world. Your world is your family and kids. You dont have the time to enjoy what you are doing and have an exit from the chaos from home. You will start to change your into “the housewife/mother” look. and that’s kinda sad….who wants that look and attitude?
I guess, it all comes down to..what makes you happy? For me, even though it freakin tempting to quit my job and stay home, but i dont think i will ever do that. I dont want my life to revolve around my kids (even though 99% of it is revolving around them) but I NEED that social life or else i’m going to go crazy. Kids are adorable but being with them 24/7 will drive anyone insane! Also, allowing them to go to daycare or something allows them to understand some rules and how to interact with kids. If I stayed out, I will not cared too much about how I look and what is going on outside of the house and what is socially changing in the world. I need to go to work to have that social side in me and keep updating myself and with technologies….
just my thought…=) good luck
Not really seeing as I had my daughter in high school and became a stay at home mom shortly there after. I’ve worked the last two and half years. I couldn’t wait to start working once all three of my kids were in school all day, but there is still summer and they still get sick so I will once again be a stay at home mom. My kids and I have missed way too much in the last two years.
Great entry. It’ a shame our society doesn’t esteem stay at home mothers as it should…Now we sadly have women old enough to be great grandmothers who bought the lie of what was to fulfill them.
Good for your for choosing the best! : ) I am a stay at home mom, a homeschool mom. I don’t regret one second of it. Not one second. My youngest is now 16 and my oldest is 27.
There are times of what many would call sacrifice, perhaps going a year or so without a car etc. but the rewards were and are beautiful….There is no comparison with what is real, and those things which are temporaral. Those things as staying home with your sweet babies, seeing them grow, training them and sharing with them shoulder to shoulder, what great blessings and joy. These thing are the things that are real, the things that will last for eternity. : )
Blessings!
All moms are special. Being a mom means your kids will always love you; being a stay-at-home mom means your kids will raise you to sainthood.
This is beautiful!
I know my cousin has decided to eventaully be a stay at home Mom because she had to watch her own mother struggle with jobs, here and there because she was a single mom. I don’t know what I’d do, I think I would still work either at home or at an actual workplace.
My mom stayed home with my older brother and me until I was well into elementary school (then she only worked part-time during the school year). Those are glory years in my life. She was always available to play Barbies, take us swimming, explore the backyard with us, read to us, etc. When I have kids, I’ll stay home with them, too, on the grounds that my mom’s sacrifices for me have been such an invaluable influence in my life.
Well done!
i’m not going to have kids anytime soon, but i feel like i would stay home. i just hear too many horror stories of kids in daycare… but i know that’s not the case of all daycares, it’s just scary
although, in my sociology class there were both pros and cons to staying home/working. for example, the children of working moms thought of their moms as smarter and more capable. however, children who were in daycare also had more instances of acting out and discipline problems… so it just depends :
Until I have children of my own I guess I won’t know what my reactions will be. But my mom stayed home with me until I was 9, and even after that she only worked part-time. Looking back, it was great to have my mom around when I was little. But when she started work, it was also great for me to spend time being baby-sat by relatives that I barely got to see otherwise!
Wonderful post.
We had decided that I would stay home when our first was born but while I was on leave my husband started thinking about losing over half our income. When he proposed that I go back to work and we looked at ways to do it …(our son would have only been in care of a friend from church for like 3 hours per day 2 days per week. The rest of the time he would have been with my husband or me). I just looked at him with tears in my eyes and said “would it be worth it. Is this what the Lord wants? I’d do it for that reason alone” He finally came to the conclusion that money wasn’t the reason to stay out of the house. One of my friends at work asked me when I brought the baby around for a visit “Don’t you think that you are wasting all your education and experience” and the Lord gave me this answer “All the education and experience were to make me ready to be a stay at home mom and raise the next generation — it’s that important.”
unfortunately I didn’t have that decision with my first. It was work or lose all medical coverage. With my second I got to stay home but we suffered financially.
But your method wasn’t science. It was a small scale biased survey you took that was isolated. Did you ask Women of our age? The work force is very different then 10years ago and that choice isn’t there for everyone.
Some of us were fortunate.
I stayed home for a few years before I had a child; that helped me to make the adjustment. I think one of the biggest adjustments for new moms is learning to stay at home. It is lonely. I was glad I had made that adjustment before having to adjust to a baby.
I went back to work after my first child was born. Leaving my tiny infant in the care of strangers was horrible for me but I did it anyway. I didn’t have a choice, we needed money.
When he was one I stayed home with him. We played, learned, and napped together and it was wonderful. We were both very happy.
I had a second little one and stayed home with both children for as long as I could.
When the littlest was one and the oldest was two I went back to work again. Both children’s attitudes and mannerisms changed to reflect those of their babysitters. We switched babysitters and the situation became worse. The youngest picked up bad habits and the oldest became insecure. I had little time or energy left to work with either of them at home. The oldest forgot many of the things I had already taught him and the youngest knew very little. There were too many differing sets of expectations and rules for the children. Discipline became a problem and both felt confused and insecure.
Now I am at home again and doing homeschool. We are on a tight budget, I rarely leave the house, and we have no extras for perks. It is worth it.
They grow too fast- now is the time to be part of their lives. Before long they will want to be on their own and you will have missed so much. I would tell anyone who loves their children and wants to be a meaningful part of their lives to stay at home.
I would really like to, but at the same time I’m worried about stagnating if I stay at home. My own mother loved work over being a stay-at-home mom so much that she was almost never home. She sent me away for the first five years of my life so she wouldn’t have to worry about stuff like changing my diaper or feeding me. The result is I feel much closer to my grandmother and aunts than I do to her. I can understand her motives, but sometimes I wonder what a mother-daughter relationship is like.
Thankfully this decision doesn’t have to be made until a few years down the road =P
Glad you’re happy in your decision! I hate it when people who stay home look down on those who don’t, and vice versa. As long as everyone knows they have made the best decision for themselves and their family at the point in their life, good for them!
Thank you for this. I’m only 19, no where near starting a family, but for years I have hoped that when the time comes I’ll be able to stay home and focus on my family without distraction.
I’ve been a babysitter for several different families, and the moms who spend the most time with their kids, as opposed to the ones who’d hire me to spend a whole summer with theirs, always had noticeably better-behaved children as a result. these kids who spend the majority of their time with their mothers were more confident, more even-tempered, and, in my experience, seemed more intelligent.
I really appreciate your post as encouragement to make what sacrifices I might have to in order to be there for my kids, especially when they’re young.
Good luck to you!
How wonderful.
I can’t wait to have kids and be a stay at home mommy. Until then, I am still in school & working.
I won’t be having kids for awhile, but when I do it’s going to be a really tough decision.
right now it’s easy to say I don’t want to stay home but I KNOW that will change once I have my child… but then again I’m not going to throw away 7 years of college, 2 degrees (one being masters) and a teaching license.
besides, I don’t think I’d financially be able to do it.
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Well, if you chose to take care of your children while they are weak, they will grow to be strong. It takes a village to raise a child. Bullshit. I’ve been attacked on every angle since I was quiet small, and it never stops. I’ve noticed that kids who had a parent with the ability to stay home are healthier, do better in school. My mother was able to stay home with some of them, and things turned out much better. I’m her little monster.
Don’t lie. Half of you are frickin’ lazy, and we’ve bumped heads quite a few times. Your little angels don’t need you to solve all their problems all of the time. Part time. Part time.
i could never just sit around at home. i need to be in school or going to work or heavily volunteering, being productive in some way besides playing with a baby. either way, i won’t have the option to stay at home, not enough money for that.
This makes me almost scared to have a kid in the future because I would most likely feel the same way.
Great post!
I don’t have kids yet, but someday I’d like to get married and hopefully have kids. I plan on staying home and homeschooling them through high school.
I’ve never known anyone who has regretted spending more time at home when their kids were little…and lots of moms who regretted the time spent away.
For me, that’s enough information.
I plan on continue working even if I have kids in the future. I need the socialization aspect of work.
I love this post and to be honest I would love to stay home if it were possible.
I always thought I would stay home with my children but now that I’m in my career and thinking about having children within a few years I do not know what I will do. I am a teacher, but doing more education to become a school librarian. It scares me to give up my job because it took me two and a half years of working in a temporary position to get this position. I’m a woman that teaches high school social studies and I do not coach anything, so I’m not the top pick for any principal here in the South. I am actually doing my education to become a librarian because I know it will be less work and stress than a teacher, so I’m doing this to have less stress when I actually have children. I would also never send my child to day care. My first choice would be for my mother to watch my children and if not her then someone else in their home, never a day care. Plus, since I will be a school librarian I will have time off when my children do in the summer, and I don’t have to worry about them being sick since I could much easier take a day off than a teacher who has to leave plans for class, etc. So I haven’t fully decided, but at this point I’m planning on continuing to work. What I think would be a great compromise would be to work part-time as a school librarian, but I don’t know if I could ever find a position like that.
mom, it is your life you can live it your way. is this daughter your son in that she is you junior; mine are and do they have problems my kids were small; do not worry kids now will put the piece back into your life which is missed. they are great kids now if only the man can help; but that may be asking too much
Hi ! I believe you made the right choice. I was a nurse before having 2 boys and my husband and I always knew that we would raise them. To me is is a miracle that I think about often – that we are actually producing another tiny human being who has many traits – good and bad – cast in stone by their third birthday. When our sons started school , I set up a Day Care in my home for children whose moms worked and over 25 years helped to raise over 50 children . I loved them all. It is not any easy career to have but I stayed with it because it was very rewarding . Some of my Moms needed to work and some chose to. If you choose to work – find the very best care you can. A place where your children are loved and special. Blessings ……
Great entry!
Hi ! Before we had our two sons, I was a nurse. We always knew we would raise our own children. When they went to school, I set up a Day Care in my home for children of moms who worked and over 25 years I helped to raise over 50 children. It wasn’t always easy but it was very rewarding.
I often think about the miracle of conceiving – growing – and birthing another human person. Awesome – isn’t it !!! If you work by choice or need to work my advice is to find the very best care you can for your children. Look for a place where they will be special and loved. Blessings ……….
I always wanted to be a SAHM. I have had to go to work and be a single mom too. It is the best thing for the kids, if the mother can handle it and wants to, to stay home with them.
I just read one commenter who said she couldn’t just sit at home all day. That is what rich women do. Stay at home moms cannot do that!
aww thats very sweet and im sure ur child will be grateful for it. If there was one thing I always wanted from my childhood was parents who would play with me and be there with me. When I was in elementary school I was taken to a women who would walk me to school so I was never had that real child bond with my parents although in my teenage years when we moved to PR my mom didnt find a job and so she became my best friend with whom I spent a lot of my time with. Its worth it
Hi ! I have written a comment here twice and it doesn’t show up. So will try once more. My husband and I decided we would raise our 2 sons with me at home. When they went to school I didn’t go back to nursing but set up a Day Care in our home for working moms. Over 25 years I helped raise over 50 children and it was very rewarding to me and my family. I soon realized that it wouldn’t pay big $$$ and that the real rewards were in helping children in their early development that would go with them throughout life. Whether you choose to stay home or to work , find the very best daycare you can that will encourage and love and see each child as an individual. Above all else , find a place that has love for each child. Blessings ………..
Sorry for sending 3 comments. Something isn’t working here !!! Each time I pressed submit the comment didn’t show up. Now all three appeared. Only one was intended. Thanks
With my first two children I went to college and then worked. When I become pregnant with my third child I was uncertain about returning to work. But, I decided to be a stay at home mom. And I wouldn’t change it for anything else.
I hated my job while I was pregnant. There were some big organizational changes, so I went from processing claims to being a customer service rep. When I went back, I hated it. I would leave in the middle of the day. Finally, I just said it wasn’t worth it. And I just quit. We’re really short on money, and I quit right before Christmas, but it was totally worth it : )
I’ve been a SAHM for 22 years. No regrets!!
I could have gone back to work part time, but the thought of leaving my little baby girl in 1977 and boy was I different! The women’s movement was in full swing – we were still fighting for the right to work outside the home in all professions. And here I was, acting like something out of Phyllis Schlafly land! But the world had to wait. We were poverty stricken for many years. But I did go back to work – I went to law school after my sixth child was a year old, got my JD when she was five and started working as an attorney when my youngest started kindergarten and my husband was working the overnight shift. There will be other opportunities, too. Daycare is always needed. Companies like Waverly, Inc., in Baltimore hired homeworking proofreaders.
Being at home does not necessarily mean being unemployed. In any event, the work mothers and fathers who opt to stay at home to care for their children is enormously valuable. They do grow up – and we do get back to other things. I ought to know – I’m already a grandma!
I do not have kids of my own but I congradulate you on your decision. My mom stayed home with my sister and me. There were sacrfices that my parents made, they had one car and a lot of our clothes were hand-me-downs. I never regret that my mom stayed home because I’ve seen to much of the alternative.
I have worked or observed in daycares for six years. I have seen things that I would not want my dog to go through more or less my child. I have seen workers cuass at babies. I have been told not to hold babies because it spoils them. I have been left alone with six one-year olds and 10 two-year olds and it’s all legal. I have seen a four-year old cuss at children, parents, and workers in addition to physically hurting others. Parents need to realize that when they put they child in daycare they lose the ability to control what their child experences and is exposed to. I understand the importance of exposing children to a variety of environments but daycare is not one I would reccomend.
I have a 15 day old child at home and have to return to school in a week!! Whenever I think about it, I cry. I wish I had the financial stability to stay home with my child and spend every waking moment with her. My husband is going to be home during the times I am at school though, so this gives him a chance for father-daughter bonding. I have noticed that because I AM home all the time- he doesn’t get the bonding that I get with her when he’s working- So this will be great for him and it will also be good for me to get out of the house for a little bit- It will be extremely difficult though. I do not want to.
While I have not yet had children of my own (nor do I plan to until I am way done with college!), my own mother regrets the years she missed at home with us. There was no other choice – we did not have the financial means for her to quit, but she had to work midnights when we were kids. She hated it and she missed my elementary school years, but she’s always been there for me and I have never felt cheated or neglected because of it.
I love this post!
I am no where near having any children, but I think that I would stay home. Just based off of the experiences that I’ve had with my nieces and nephew.
KTraylor I work at a day care and if ANY of our kids and teachers swore at each other in front of the children, it would not be appropriate behavior. In fact, if a teacher swore like that to children, there would be serious consequences to it. For the teachers, it means meetings, being written up, an email sent out to parents, not working with that particular age group and the list goes on and on.
As for as not holding a baby because it will spoil them, MY day care center encourages holding to encourage the bonding experience between the educator and child. We do encourage the infants to also play on their own, but the child and an educator snuggle when the child has gotten hurt or if it’s naptime or in a similar situation. I’m very sad that you had awful experiences with the day care setting. I wish that you were able to have the experiences that I have had/continue to have in my day care.
As a teacher at a day care setting, I STRONGLY suggesting and recommending looking into and researching the day cares around your work and home. There are some God awful centers. Some day care centers that my parents swear up and down that they couldn’t go back to work without the center and teachers to support them.
Doing research into day care centers around your work and home will help you make your decision, regardless of which choice you make.
As for as everyone else still reading this, my mom was a stay at home mom until I was in 5th grade. Even then, she worked part-time for a couple of years. She always said that her kids came first before work. She and I are the type of people that need to keep busy during the day. I don’t have kids yet but I hope that the decision (stay at home verus going back to work) will be one I hope to be okay with if I ever have to make that choice.
@thats_italian - I totally agree with you. There is nothing better!
You will never regret staying home with your kids..you may, however, regret giving them up to make money, pursue a career, etc, but God gave you your baby to you and noone else!! Anyone can make money, but NOONE else can raise your dear baby!
I’d like to think that if I could be a stay-at-home Mom, I would be. Yet, looking back on it, as much as I enjoyed spending the first year of my sons life with him, taking night classes and working weekends, I’ve come to the conclusion that day care was actually better for him. Granted, I’ve got him in a daycare that costs almost $300 a week, and works more as a school than a babysitter, but it was still a good decision. He learns so much! He comes home exhausted. He asks to see all his friends from school, and he’s learning quickly the rules of the playground (he’s bottom of the food chain).
Not only that, as hard as it is to go to work and leave him, its really hard to be Mom every hour of the day. Day care gave him the social interaction, and me time to me. Sure, I go to school, and work, and then I’m mom, but for the few hours breaks I have in between I have quiet time to walk and enjoy me.
I guess what I’m saying is that while staying at home and spending time with your kids is absolutely amazing and a true gift, having the time to conquer your own goals and dreams, building the future you always wanted, and knowing that you accomplished everything that you wanted to is a gift too.
Maybe by staying home you are accomplishing those goals. Maybe not.
What happens when they go to school?
To college?
Regardless of whether or not you stay home, your children will be safe and happy. They will love you endlessly, and will feel secure in your arms every night when you come home.
I made the decision to stay home twice.
First with my oldest two. I left the workforce and stayed home with them.
WIth my youngest two, I stopped attending college to stay home again.
I figure, college, work, all of that is something I can pick up later. My children will never be this age again and I don’t want to miss a minute that i don’t have to.
It’s a stressful sacrifice, both in income and self-esteem, but I do not regret it
I used to work at a daycare in college. It was a “nice” one. Moms would come in at closing time and lament the time they “had” to spend away from their children. I thought, “Good grief. Sell the Mercedes and move to a smaller house and you can stay home…” With my first, I went back to work. I loved my job and we had good insurance. Now that my husband’s job provides insurance, I can stay home even though we’ve had to cut back quite a bit.
After being home for 3 months now, I can say I know I am a different person than I was when I had something outside the home to keep my brain from turning to mommyland mush. I have traded myself for butt-wiping and Sesame Street. For some children, it would be better to have parents that are happy. Some parents would be happier if they retained their sense of self. It requires a much greater degree of self-discipline to be at home all day with the kids. I have to be intentional about nurturing myself so that I have anything to give to my family. Even on the worst days, I can’t help but feel I have made the right decision. I have almost reconciled myself to the idea that it is right and good for me to sacrifice myself for the sake of another and who better than my child? I have never heard anyone say, “I wish I had worked more when my kids were little.” They won’t be little forever. In a few short years there will be plenty of time for reading important books. Today, though, we will be reading The Very Hungry Caterpillar and snuggling and eating some cookies.
sorry, but i would not like to be a stay at home mom for a few years. maybe for a couple of weeks/months in the beginning. i’ve worked extremely hard in school to pursue my career, and for me to hold it at a complete stop when my i have a child doesn’t intrigue me. plus staying at home all the time would drive me crazy. it’s easy to say this now and things might be different when i have kids, but i respect your decision.
I just hope it works out for you in the long run.
I’ve done it all from working full-time, staying home full-time and working part-time. I can honestly say that I am a better mother when I am working, either part or full-time. When my boys (now 16 and 20) were little, I worked it out so that I could do things with them and keep my foot in the door to help my career.
They flourished in daycare and in preschool, as well as at home. I tried to base my decisions about work based on their needs. My oldest needed a lot of stimulation, so I worked a lot more when he was small and had him in a great learning environment. My youngest was different, so I spent a lot of time with him at home, working part time. I was fortunate to be able to have these choices, but they did not come without sacrifice.
I wouldn’t do it any differently. I am proud to say that I showed my boys that women are capable of being more than housecleaners, cooks, and chauffeurs and I now have a career that I am proud of that helps support our family.
@thats_italian - I disagree with just about your entire entry. The “lies” you say are not “lies”. We women CAN do what we need and want to do in this world. Those are not lies. The lie is telling a woman that the only thing she can contribute to this world is a child and being a “help mate” to a man. Strong women can raise healthy, happy children and pursue other dreams.
My mother worked as a teacher and loved her life. She also loved her children.
My mother in law also worked full time and raised 3 wonderful sons.
What society doesn’t do for women is to provide adequate leave, before and after school care, and affordble child care.
After my son was born I did go back to work part-time. My husband is a firefighter and had a schedule where we could work mine around his (I was a critical care nurse). One of us was always home with our boy. Rarely did we leave him with someone else, and if we did for a few hours it was usually a family member. I did become a stay at home Mom. I was working swing shifts and my sleep habits were not good for a tiny baby. I have never regretted being home with my child. True we could not do some of the things we did when we were single or newly married, but that happens with a child and we knew life would change. I hated leaving my child, it made me feel like I was giving up the greatest gift given to me.
I just wish that the world gave stay at home moms more credit. They think running a home and caring for a child is easy work, they are wrong! It takes dedication and love. I have to say that it is the greatest job you will ever do!
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